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Take a Fresh Look: How Well Do You Really Know Your Partner?

Posted by Sarah Wiesendanger

1056 Days Ago


The author, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, once commented in an interview that he was so accustomed to his wife that he had become aware that he hardly knew her at all. Because it’s easy, isn’t it, to not give our full attention to the familiar and everyday? Sometimes, in fact, we can give more attention to our own stories and assumptions about each other, than to what we’d really observe if only we were to really look – without judgement, criticism, or blame – to really listen – beneath the inaccuracy of words.

This kind of clear seeing takes concentrated focus. But it also takes time. It can’t be done, without practise, amidst the rush of the everyday. A Western journalist, wanting to interview a tribe leader from South America, was asked if the leader could get to know him a little bit first. When the two sat down together, the journalist assumed he’d be asked about his past, his work. What actually happened was that the leader looked into his eyes for two hours straight. After initial intense discomfort, the journalist left the encounter convinced that he’d never been so intimate with anyone else.

Through the length of your relationship with your partner, for how long have you held their gaze; taken the time to settle into their company with a clear-seeing silence?

Sarah Wiesendanger

Article written by Sarah Wiesendanger - Aldershot

I am passionate about supporting people to live lives of optimum emotional, psychological and spiritual well-being.

In my practice, I use an eclectic range of techniques supported by scientific research. The emphasis of my work is on empathic understanding, compassion, and on collaborating together to create solutions to move forward, and not... [read more]

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