Ros  Lane

Ros  Lane

Counsellor in Ely

At times in our lives we can all feel lost, unsure and sometimes broken. As our emotions fluctuate we struggle to make sense of our feelings, whilst at other times we may seek counselling because we are overwhelmed by a specific event. The world may not always feel safe and we may withdraw. We lose our self-belief and no longer trust we can be understood or that our feelings can be heard and attended to. People seek counselling for all sorts of different and valid reasons.

I am a warm, caring and experienced Counsellor. In my work I provide a safe and confidential space, creating opportunity for exploration of behaviours, thoughts and feelings. Helping to give understanding to the feelings and responses which are being encountered, where the reality of our past, as well as current events can impact our emotional wellbeing in the here and now.

I am passionate about how Counselling, Integrative Psychotherapy, Eye Movement De-Sensitization Reprocessing and Supervision can support you to to live a hope filled life. I believe that no one person is the same therefore my therapeutic approach is flexible and will differ in order to meet each individual person and/or family where they are at in their life. I provide therapeutic support in a safe environment to enable you and your family members to build sustainable skills and emotional resilience to live a happier life. Many families struggle daily with issues around depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and self-identity. Some of these issues are the result of life events such as trauma and loss, struggling to find identity , meaning, purpose and hope. I believe that early therapeutic intervention is key to help you whereby processing your feelings through talking, and creative work and play helps build confidence and self -esteem, enabling you to find inner coping skills to be able to regulate your emotions which will provide emotional resilience and help you to thrive.

Background & Qualifications

My own interest in counselling began when I was working in a prison as Chaplain. It helped to explain why they behaved as they did. It offered me an account of why all of us can behave in a way which confuses people. I undertook a rigorous training at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust in London which highlighted the importance of kindness, respect and tolerance for all individuals especially when they are having a tough time. My training was thorough; the institution prides itself as a leading training provider in all aspects of Mental Health in the country. The psychotherapists there are highly respected. I am therefore proud of the service I can offer you. Counselling is one way of beginning to feel in charge where you don't have to be drawn down into the stream's current rather you can sit on the bank of the stream and observe yourself. More recently I have been providing supervision within East Cambridgeshire to a local volunteer support group, set up to creatively support people living with long term mental health issues through the Creative Arts as well as staff support groups within NHS mental health settings.

More recently I have been awarded a Certificate in Counselling and Psychotherapy Supervision and am providing one to one and group supervision for Counsellors and Psychotherapists within the the Cogwheel Trust ( a not for profit counselling charity) and the Clergy in the Ely Diocese within Cambridgeshire.

I hold an MA in Integrative Counselling from the University of Manchester; Postgraduate Diploma in Forensic Psychotherapeutic Studies from the Portman and Tavistock NHS Foundation Trust and a Professional Doctorate in Practical Theology from the University of Chester. As part of my ongoing continuing professional development I have received Certificates in Mediation and Restorative Justice with Surrey Police, Solution Focussed Therapy at Anglia Ruskin University, Certificate in Brief Psychoanalytic from Sheffield University, and a Certificate in Time Limited Psychodynamic Psychotherapy with Adolescents. In 2019 I completed a training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing with both children, young people and adults.

I have 21 years of experience working with adults as within the Prison Service, NHS and in Private Practice where I accept self -referrals and those from GP's, BUPA, Prudential, Western Provident Association, Aviva and from Employee Assisted Programmes. I have extensive knowledge of integrative and psychodynamic therapeutic techniques covering issues such as relationship breakdown, bereavement and loss, terminal illness, depression and anxiety, eating disorders, betrayal, depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts, sexuality, emotional abuse and anger management.

Over the past ten years I have extended my practice to children, teenagers and their families as a School Psychotherapist and in private practice. Many young people suffer needlessly and alone and find it especially hard to ask for help. I will integrate different modalities and techniques in my sessions which can include, sand tray work, play, stories, art and music.

Clients often come back and have follow up sessions or extend their work beyond the Employee Assisted Programmes allowance. Consistent attention can make the difference between confusion and movement forward.

I work within a strict code of personal and professional ethics and am an accredited member of BACP. I have been awarded the BACP Certificate of Proficiency making me eligible to go onto the BACP Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists. This Register is the first to become accredited by the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care. I adhere to their complaints procedure and continuing professional development (CPD) requirements.
I holds an Enhanced Certificate with the Disclosure and Barring Service and am registered with the Information Commissioner adhering to GDPR Regulations.

Accredited registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy No:528008

My Specialisms

My specialisms are in supporting people through times of loss, trauma and family breakdown. I use a compassion focussed approach in my work especially when there is healing, recovery and reparation needed to restore relationships. My specialist training in forensic, psychodynamic and attachment focussed trauma work offers individuals and families to make space to think and slow things down so adjustments, meaning, understanding and respect can help people to thrive rather than just survive.

Approach to Therapy & How I Work

My approach to working with people is to see them as unique individuals who are making the best out of their lives given their current circumstances and backgrounds.This is in face to face work and on line/telephone work.

If people are to make changes in their lives so that they can be happier, more content, at peace, this at one moment may involve focusing on the what has happened in the past or at another time on their goals for the future, or developing strategies to overcome what is holding them back in the present, including addressing health issues.

I therefore draw on all my training and experience when working with people to give them a bespoke therapy which evolves with their changing needs.

I also enjoy working with a wide range of people from a wide range of backgrounds and welcome all ages, gender identities, races, sexualities and abilities

Sometimes life can feel like a stuck record. The same old problems keep coming back or won't go away. At other times we may feel stuck or held back from achieving our hopes or dreams. Perhaps you have been depressed and or anxious for some time or have other longer term mental health issues. These would all be reasons to see me for psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy is an opportunity to help you understand what makes you tick. It can, for example, involve an exploration of your past and the relationships and experiences that have formed you. This sometimes helps to understand how we are part of the issues that affect us in the present. If we can understand these dynamics we can begin to make changes in the way we behave so that things can be different in the future.

This process tends to take from a few months up to a couple of years of weekly work. It is particularly helpful for addressing:

Depression & Anxiety problems
Complicated grief issues
Childhood abuse
Relationship and family problems
Long term mental health issues
Sexuality issues
Psychotherapy tends to be longer term than counselling. It may however involve using EMDR, especially if there have been any traumatic events in the past.


I guess we all have a sense that it is good to talk through our problems and difficulties with someone that you trust and respect. However this may not always be possible. Perhaps these people are not in your life; perhaps they may be too close or even part of the problem.

This is when seeing myself as a counsellor could be particularly helpful. Counselling is a process where you can develop trust and respect with someone who is outside of the situation. This creates a safe place where you can explore your thoughts and feelings, find connections between the past and the present and make decisions or changes which are right for you.

As a counsellor I am here to listen, not to judge, to help you understand what is happening and to respond as a human being to your situation. I may offer suggestions about how to work with what you bring and may have ideas about how to proceed but I am not there to give you advice. As I offer a confidential service this also means that you can talk to me about things that are difficult and painful which you may not have spoken about before.

This process may take anything from a few sessions up to a few months of weekly work depending upon the issues that you bring. It is particularly helpful for addressing:

Low self esteem
Low confidence
Stressful life events
Bereavement and loss
Sleep problems
Relationship and family difficulties
Recent onset depression or anxiety
Or any other issue that has started within the last year
Sometimes this work can develop into psychotherapy or using EMDR if this is appropriate.

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a very powerful psychological technique developed by Dr Francine Shapiro in the US in the 1980's. It has a lot of research done into it for working with traumatic experiences and is recommended by the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) for working with people with post traumatic stress disorder.

The types of traumatic events that it can be used to treat include:

war-related experiences
natural disasters
road traffic accidents
workplace accidents
childhood sexual and / or physical abuse or neglect
surgical trauma
However it can also be used to help people with performance anxiety or other problems including:

low self esteem
bereavement and loss
panic attacks and anxiety
It can be used where any current problem has its roots in difficult experiences from the past as it helps to remove the emotional and psychological connections between the trauma and now. It can be used as a standalone therapy or as part of ongoing counselling or psychotherapy.

Working with people can be very demanding and stressful. Counsellors, psychotherapists and EMDR practitioners, Supervsiors and group facilitators, trainers and others that work in the caring professions need somewhere to take issues with their work to enable them to work effectively with others. Supervision is a requirement of the professional bodies to whom I belong being the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and EMDR UK.

Supervision is an opportunity to look at the dynamics that affect our work. Whether these are about: individual clients, groups or organisations; institutional or team dynamics; issues of working with particular client groups; issues of race, sexuality, gender etc; your personal psychology; understanding them can help enormously to deepen and develop your work. I have been working as a supervisor for many years with individuals as well as groups and staff teams. Through my experience of working at the University of Cardiff, I have an understanding of the process of training to be a counsellor and supervisor and therefore welcome students for supervision.

Therapies & Rates

Please note the rates detailed below are there to give you an idea of the therapists standard rates, we strongly advise you contact the therapist for more detailed rates and any offers they may have.

Therapy Appointment Type Rate
Psychotherapy In Person £50 per 50 minutes
Counselling In Person £50 per 50 minutes
EMDR In Person £100 per 60 minutes
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Additional Rate Information

Counselling and Psychotherapy Supervision is offered at £75 per 90 minutes.