Tom Jagiello

Agnes on 20/03/2019

"Transform myself to help my daughter.

I've started work with Tom during the most challenging situation in my life. Since it was connected with my daughter, who was in deep crisis at that time, I felt completely overwhelmed and depressed about what was happening. I desperately needed help how to cope with that situation. I have been working for over three months on regular basis and it was deeply transformative time. It appeared that if I want to be helpful to my daughter, I have to solve my own inner conflicts. The process was painful. It was a really intensive piece of work but eventually, it was the most valuable lesson for the future.
I've removed lots of difficult emotions from my subconscious, I`ve worked with fears that had been blocking me for such a long time. I`ve worked with memories which were unwanted ballast of the past and only limited me. During the work, my life started to change in the most unexpected areas. I've discovered strengths in myself that allows to overcome difficulties and learn from it. I've gained the courage to take responsibility for my life, I was given lots of information and tools, which I can use independently on my own so I feel more freedom and have more confidence to my own possibilities and resources.
When I started the process I was in deep crisis, after over three months of working I`m strong enough to push my life on the new track and every day I`m amazed how much I`ve changed. And what is the most important for me, transforming my beliefs, thoughts and limitations had unbelievable impact on my daughter. After struggling for about year with eating disorders (anorexia), finally we came to the point that my daughter is eating sufficiently to gain healthy weight.

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Nicola Azab on 22/11/2020

"I had experienced a traumatic childhood of sexual abuse

Before I met Tom, I wasn't sure if I really needed his help, although obviously I really did, I was adept at surviving.

I had experienced a traumatic childhood of sexual abuse, went on to make decisions that led me into domestic violence, and to cope with it all used drug addiction to escape the daily torment of life. Even with all of this, I told myself that I had my life and emotions under control even though things never seemed to get better and life always felt like a struggle. I was never the person I wanted to be, there was always an obstacle; an excuse; another poor relationship; a problem.

I was full of guilt and shame about what had happened to me and I had masked it with excessive drinking and taking drugs. On top of this, I was an isolated single mother of three children, one who self-harmed. I was on a low income with no support or inspiration around me. I knew I wanted more from life and needed help but I was not sure what kind or how to get it.

I came into contact with Tom because I knew his amazing wife after she made such a big impact on my son two years previously. I explained all of this to Tom who at the beginning was a bit scary to me especially because he was a man.

After the first session with Tom, although it was long gone, I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders just to know the theme that had been running my life felt very powerful. I felt that there was a reason for a lot of my mistakes, something which I could identify with to work on and a purpose for the future.

Tom was calm, quiet and non-judgmental, there was a lot of support for me and he offered manageable solutions for a lot of my problems. I did not really believe in his time-frame and thought it would take a lot longer as I believed that therapy takes years and not months but after some time and effort spent on my problems, he was right and I finished early.

His methods facilitated for me a lasting positive change that has been very visible to the people around me. This has given me more confidence, energy and a new passion for life that has enabled me to step up and be the best version of myself and also to be able to cope when things are not so good. I would recommend Tom wholeheartedly.

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Simon on 22/11/2020

"A trap with no way out?

From an early age, I struggled with emotional problems. As a child, I experienced physical and mental abuse from my unstable and irresponsible father. Over time, my parents' marriage broke up and my father abandoned me and my sister as well.

As a 14-year-old boy, I was completely lost. I had a false image of what a normal human relationship should look like. With time it got worse and worse, before the age of 16, I started to resort to stimulants and drugs. I found myself in a company of people, where the relationship was based on falsehood, betrayal, disrespect and hedonism, a company that I would not wish for anyone.

It's hard to count the negative experiences, rejections and traumas that I experienced during this difficult period. I got in trouble with the law and couldn't build a healthy relationship with other people. The days grew harder and I had less and less energy to cope with my life. I fell into severe depression, interspersed with binge drinking and self-destructive behaviours.

Many times, I planned to take my own life because I could not see any way out of my situation. After all these years of living in such a nightmare, when it was extremely bad, I went to a psychiatrist for help. I was very quickly diagnosed as "bipolar" and informed that for the rest of my life I would have to take hefty doses of drugs and work on myself for years to "maybe" achieve some stability.

Years passed and saturated with drugs, although I was feeling better, I was far from normal and I experience very unpleasant side effects of the medication.

At the end of 2019, I came across information about the possibility of working with Tom Jagiello. It's hard to put into words how profound changes have taken place inside me and in my consciousness. From a wasted man, after 10 years of "sickness", I rose to my feet within six months. Currently, I function completely without drugs (which were discontinued under the supervision and with the consent of a doctor). I have overcome my traumas and bad memories. I am very active - I have more and more energy. Tom, apart from working with me as a therapist, also taught me many self-improvement techniques, which I use effectively. After the end of cooperation, I still experience an improvement in the quality of life. As a 25-year-old man, I finally found myself, I came out of something "supposedly incurable", thanks to the way that Tom showed me.

I heartily recommend working with Tom. He is an amazing man and specialist whose services exceed the offer of psychotherapists (at least those I have had contact with so far). Thanks to (maybe less conventional) methods of hypnotherapy, I made a big change and got better in such a short time that it was a surprise even to my doctor. My relationship with my immediate family has improved dramatically. I build satisfying bonds with people. I cope well even if the conditions are difficult or unfavourable. I'm just happy that I was able to make such a change in my life."

Marta on 06/12/2020

"I had struggled with depression for 10 years. My multifaceted and multi-hued depression was fed even more by bereavement. When I contacted Tom I had not any clear expectations of the treatment, I was confused. During the first sessions, we painstakingly elicited my goals. That was the most difficult part of the process. It allowed me to draw out and concretise my problems, take a look at them and describe them. I needed that because I usually felt flooded by vague emotions and thoughts.

Tom earned my trust by saying that he did not care for making me dependent on him as a therapist. He wanted me to take from the therapeutic process new skills and tools so I could manage independently.

Tom put a lot of effort into our work in and outside the sessions. He was well prepared for every meeting and he expected the same from me. He would create a certain structure of treatment and shared his ideas with me. Then he was adapting his framework to my way of thinking and perception. He would also take into consideration my needs, should I find some difficulty in our communication.

Despite my worries about the effectiveness of Skype meetings, I actually felt really comfortable working via computer - I did not have to go out, I could stay in the familiar and safe surroundings.

My work with Tom focused on two main problems related to old unfinished problems stemming from complex family history. It was a very intensive piece of work. Tom led me through the process of clearing negative emotions embedded in those problems.

Then he helped me to integrate conflicted parts of my personality. I was shown the tools which I could use by myself to consolidate my achievements. Thanks to them, six months after the end of the work, I continue doing well instead of being defeated by yet another wave of depression.

I regained access to many memories and also to forgotten creative abilities of mine, like imagination. I can enjoy experiencing my emotions without losing the ability to think analytically. I again can feel joy and pleasure. The sadness stopped overwhelming me. It became one of many regular emotions I am capable of experiencing. For the first time in a long time, I feel inner peace."