Joyce Mandel Walter, Relationship Counselling & Sex Therapy
, Sex Therapist in Folkestone, Kent
My work is to help individuals and couples take a fresh look at their relationships and to offer strategies to help them cut through the blocks that are getting in the way of satisfying, loving connections. We often put blocks up because we understandably want to feel ‘safe', but this can become a painful trap, keeping you stuck and feeling isolated and alone. I also work with those who are picking up the pieces after a break-up or bereavement, and those who wish to find themselves within a loving relationship but keep hitting blocks in the process, or aren't sure they're ready yet.
I have been specifically trained in the field of human relationships and sexuality and am experienced in working with both individuals and couples to sensitively explore difficult issues in these areas, as a counsellor and as a COSRT accredited psychosexual & relationship therapist. I offer a safe space where you can be seen and heard, without judgement.
I work in an LGBTQ affirmative way and my practice is open to all lifestyle choices and sexual orientations. I welcome and am experienced in working with cultural and sexual diversity.
Background & Qualifications
I am an experienced RELATE-UK trained relationship counsellor offering counselling and psychosexual therapy for couples and individuals in Sandgate, near Folkestone, Kent.
I grew up in Brooklyn, New York, and have lived in the UK since 1985. I earned an M. ED from Florida Atlantic University, and later, in the UK, I trained at the Relate Institute at the University of East London, to become a Relate-UK certified practitioner. In addition to my private practice, I worked for many years at Relate West & Mid Kent as one of their experienced and fully accredited counsellors.
Starting in 2009, I took further training in Psychosexual & Relationship therapy at Regents College, London, earning the London Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Counselling. In May, 2011, I trained at the Tavistock Institute in London with Dr. Sue Johnson to further my skills in the practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, and to become a qualified member of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). This has progressed my work with couples in distress, and especially those who are struggling with the effects of ‘attachment trauma', for example, as a result of affairs or addiction, or as a result of the wounds of their childhood.
In addition to my private practice, I worked for many years at Relate West Kent as one of their experienced and fully accredited counsellors. I am an accredited therapist and psychosexual therapist with The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT); a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP); The Association for Independent Practitioners (AIP); and The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
I have a special interest and experience in working with the following issues: Affairs, withdrawn or burnt out partners, compulsive lying, survivors of abuse, loss & bereavement, sexual orientation, sexual dysfunction, ‘Low or No Sex' relationships, difficulties around sexual orientation or gender; life stage transitions, Anxiety, Emotional Intensity Disorder, fear of commitment, addictions & partnering those with addictions (including internet, gambling, porn & sex addiction), Low confidence and self esteem, and "I Love you but I'm not in Love with you" couple dynamics.
Psychosexual therapy is the process of addressing both sexual and relationship issues on either an individual or couple basis. I have experience in dealing with issues including erectile dysfunction, ejaculatory control, loss of desire, mis-matched desire in couples, vaginismus, inability to achieve an orgasm, painful sex, addiction or obsession with sexual stimuli, a history of sexual abuse, or negative childhood images about sex.
Approach to Therapy & How I Work
I use an integrative approach drawing on training in systemic, humanistic, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) , ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy), Mindfulness, and EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy).
I have a special interest in adult attachment issues, and often call on the techniques of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in my couple work, based on the pioneering work of Dr. Sue Johnson in Canada, with whom I've had the privilege to have trained with.
While using words to communicate is the cornerstone of therapy, with some clients I also like to turn to other methods, such as the use of creative techniques including images, drawing and buttons, for example, to help them to go ‘beneath' the words and access the bigger picture for themselves. I also find that a well developed sense of humour is an important resource in this work!
Talking about sex can be embarrassing and awkward for many people, but I hope that my open, friendly and gentle approach will help you to feel more comfortable with intimate discussions. A sex therapy program is tailored to each individual's needs, but typically involves a combination of detailed history taking, along with behavioural tasks, exercises and ‘experiments' to learn ways to overcome blocks and couple incompatibilities, and to be more in touch with your senses and your body. This is always a ‘talking therapy'. No undressing or sexual touching is ever considered appropriate in the therapy room. Behavioural tasks involving any sensual/sexual activity, when suggested, are done as ‘homework' in privacy.
I offer flexible appointment times, daytime or evenings with little or no waiting lists. You are not required to have a regular weekly slot, as many of my clients prefer fortnightly sessions, and/or work shifts.
Therapies & Rates
Please note the rates detailed below are there to give you an idea of the therapists standard rates, we strongly advise you contact the therapist for more detailed rates and any offers they may have.
|Psychotherapy||In Person||£45 per 50 minutes|
|Psychotherapy||Skype/Telephone||£45 per 50 minutes|
|Counselling||In Person||£45 per 50 minutes|
|Counselling||Skype/Telephone||£30 per 30 minutes|
|Sex Therapy||In Person||£45 per 50 minutes|
|Sex Therapy||Skype/Telephone||£30 per 30 minutes|
|Relationship Therapy||In Person||£65 per 75 minutes|
|Relationship Therapy||Skype/Telephone||£65 per 75 minutes|
Additional Rate Information
In Sandgate, Folkestone, Kent: Individuals: £45 per session. Couples: £65 for 1 hour 15 minute session Evening and Saturday rates are £5 more. Telephone/Skype/Facetime sessions also available, please ask for details.
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