Ruth Veda Clarke

I offer you a confidential and safe space for you to explore the struggles, triggers, pain, behaviours, and secrets that keep you feeling stuck.

Together, we’ll work to uncover the underlying reasons behind your actions and reactions, helping you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and how your childhood has shaped you, this will in turn empower you to make conscious, aligned choices that feel right and great for you.

This is a place to find the truest, most authentic you and embrace the challenging lows and exhilarating highs of life, learning to accept the things you cannot change, take steps to change the things you can, and finding the wisdom to know the difference.

My life journey...

I bring together the urgency of a Paramedic’s frontline experience, the intuitive touch of a Massage Therapist, and challenging personal work I have embraced to navigate my own painful path through, chronic pain, people pleasing, addiction and emotionally abusive relationships.

Now in my 40s, through my life and work I have shed more & more light, step by step on the statements 1) 'what's wrong will me' and 2) 'Will I ever be good enough?' to release the shame, confusion, fear and loneliness, I have experienced. My undiagnosed dyslexia also amplified a lifelong struggle to be understood, al of this gives me a deep appreciation for genuine connection and validation in my therapeutic space.

My journey is shaping a deeply compassionate, holistic approach that is based on honouring the wisdom of the mind body connection. Step by step I have been reclaiming my self expression, my worth, my value and my lovability, by drawing on my own inner cheerleader to create the changes I desire.

Somatic & Psychotherapeutic Qualifications:

-Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner (Dr. Gabor Maté)

-Graduate Training in Compassionate Inquiry

- Compassionate Inquiry Intern Training (Facilitated by Dr. Gabor Maté)

- Certified Breath Coach (YogaBody)

- NOCN Intuitive Recovery

- Empowerment Coach & Glass Walking Facilitator

Bodywork & Physical Therapy:

- ITEC Level 3: Anatomy, Physiology & Pathology

- Diploma: Deep Tissue Massage

- Diploma: Swedish Full Body Massage

- Diploma: On-Site Massage

- Diploma: Seated Acupressure

- Baby Massage Instructor

- Reiki II Practitioner

Leadership & Personal Development:

-Landmark Forum: Introduction, Advanced, and Leadership & Self-Expression programs.

My approach is based on my own lived experience of people pleasing, co-dependancy, sexual & physical abuse, chronic pain with a diagnoses of Osteoarthric in my hips, witnessing my father deortaite from a process happening inside of him labelled Motor Nuerones disease, being a step-mum to an autistic & neurodiversgent boy, addictions to alcohol, cociane, using emotional eating to soothe myself, not being able to ask for help intertwinded with my professional history as a Paramedic, Massage Therapist, Event Organiser, Nanny, Cancer co-coridinertor and Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner.

Healing the Roots of Suffering

I support you in moving through the challenges that often stem from a dysregulated nervous system and unresolved trauma.

Addiction & Recovery: Moving beyond the "why the addiction" to the "why the pain." Having understood drug addiction myself, I offer a space of zero judgment and curiosity.

Trauma & Sexual Trauma: Safely discharging the "implicit memory" of trauma stored in the body, allowing you to reclaim your sense of self and safety.

Co-dependency & Boundaries: Mastering the art of saying "no" and finding your own worth to prioritise your own needs and be ok with the guilt.

Burnout & Chronic Stress: Transitioning from "survival mode" back into a state of regulated, peaceful flow.

Relationship Struggles & Triggers: Understanding the reoccurring upsets and "body bracing" that happen when our past shows up in our present connections.

Working Through the "Heavy" Emotions

Healing isn't just about feeling better; it's about getting better at feeling. I specialize in helping you sit with, understand, and transform:

Anxiety & Low Self-Esteem: Moving from inner criticism to self-compassion.

Anger & Grief: Learning to "dance" with these powerful emotions rather than being consumed or silenced by them.

Physical Pain: Addressing the emotional constriction and childhood adaptations that often manifest as physical tension or chronic discomfort.

The foundation of my clinical practice is Compassionate Inquiry, the psychotherapeutic approach created by Dr. Gabor Maté, which guides you to:

-Uncover and release the layers of childhood trauma and suppressed emotion that are often embedded in the body (somatic experience).

-Recognise the unconscious beliefs and constrictions that are at the root of many mental, emotional, and even physical challenges.

-Move from old, reactive coping patterns to conscious choices rooted in self awareness.

- Connect with your body as a gateway to healing:

With a professional background as both a Paramedic and a Massage Therapist, I have a practical understanding of how the body stores stress. Which helping you release stored trauma held in the implicit body memory, those "stuck" feelings that talk therapy alone often can't reach.

As well as Compassionate Inquiry physcoltherapitc approach my work draws on:

- Polyvagal Theory: to regulate your nervous system.

- Somatic Therapy & Movement: to process emotions physically.

- Visualisation & Music: To create a rich, immersive environment for change.

- Playfulness: Play is essential for safety. By bringing a playful energy to my work, we create the security needed to "feel into" the body without fear.

Ways to Connect: Beyond one-to-one sessions, I offer dedicated spaces for restoration and expression:

- "Me Time" Sessions: Focused on personal nourishment and reset.

- Free "Move and Groove" Sessions: A community space to shake off stress and find your rhythm.