Neil Loffhagen

As a Gender, Sexual and Relationship Therapist, my aim is to help you explore all aspects of your gender, sexuality and relationships.

Being GSRD & LGBTQ+ affirmative, I offer full acceptance of who you are. I will work positively with you and support whatever your gender and sexuality may be. Whatever you bring I feel we will be able to explore together, leading to greater self-acceptance, plus greater personal peace. No issue is considered more important than another. Every area you bring is of unique importance.

My aim is to help you in your journey to discover your potential. I am not here to tell you what to do; that is advice and any change would likely be short-lived. Through self-discovery, a power within can be found which may surprise you and those around you.

Background & Qualifications

I am a Gender, Sexual and Relationship Therapist, seeing clients for over 8 years.

Qualifications:

Having successfully completed the first year, I am continuing studying an advanced Diploma in Integrative Psychosexual Therapy, plus am studying Pink Therapy's Foundation Certificate in Gender and Sexual Diversity Therapy.

BA (Hons) in psychology

Certificate in Counselling and Listening Skills

Certificate in Person-Centred counselling

Diploma in Person-Centred counselling

Certificate in Focusing Skills and Theory for Therapists

Organisations a member of:

Member of College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT)

Accredited registrant of the National Counselling Society (NCS)

Member of the National Council of Psychotherapists (NCP)

Member of the British Association for the Person-Centred Approach (BAPCA)

Member of the World Association for Person Centred & Experiential Psychotherapy & Counselling (WAPCEPC)

Member of Pink Therapy

Registered with Counselling Directory

My Specialisms

Abortion
Abuse - sexual, emotional and other types …
Anger
Bullying - at school, at college, in families …
Depression
Gender / Sexuality (acceptance, not change)
Fear of … (anything or anybody)
Grief, loss, bereavement - people, relationships, employment …
Low self-esteem
Relationships - starting, developing, ending …
Self-harming
Suicidal thoughts

Approach to Therapy & How I Work

We are each unique, so the way we work together will be unique.

Brian Thorne, a person-centred therapist, said:

"I have discovered since that love devoid of understanding, although it can bring comfort and solace, can never heal."

My offering is unconditional love and acceptance, combined with understanding to help bring healing and thus change. The overall aim is for you to have no need for a therapist or counsellor. Brian Thorne also wrote:

"It is my experience that those who have found healing through relationship with a therapist always discover that they, too, are loveable and capable of loving."

"If therapy has been successful, clients will also have learned how to be their own therapist."

It is as though he listened
and such listening as his enfolds us in silence
in which at last we begin to hear
what we are meant to be.
Lao-Tse

Therapies & Rates

Please note the rates detailed below are there to give you an idea of the therapists standard rates, we strongly advise you contact the therapist for more detailed rates and any offers they may have.

Therapy	Appointment Type	Rate
Counselling	In Person	£60 per 60 minutes
Counselling	Online/Telephone	£60 per 60 minutes
Sex Therapy	In Person	£60 per 60 minutes
Relationship Therapy	In Person	£60 per 60 minutes

Additional Rate Information

The horrible bit - I charge £60 per counselling hour, which is 60 minutes. We are all unique in what works best for us, so a session can be longer or shorter according to your wishes. This is open for discussion. Costs are then charged pro-rata. Some concessions are available for students and others. Payment can be by cash, cheque, PayPal or using "mobile to mobile payments".