The last weeks have been about grief, in unexpected ways. Sat at the end of a table of strangers at a potluck dinner, I ended up in a conversation with a man in his late 50’s that led us to the topic of grief. The theme of the evening was actually about modern love, but somehow our conversation meandered differently, and we ended up sharing about our sadness around the current times.
We talked about the disconnection that has increased due to smartphones, sharing our remorse over the quick reach to our phones and our decreased attention spans, our current lack of ability to focus on one thing at a time anymore. I also talked about my anger and frustration at the neglect and lack of care that I see in my neighbourhood at the moment. And about the big big grief around the loss of innocence that has happened to so many people that we are partly just finding out about now through many different media.
Understanding Grief
A grief of being in systems that don’t support us and are leading to more and more disconnection from the self and each other. And my conversation partner was deeply moved to see me express this outright, with emotion. It was a short but magic moment of not being alone in that feeling and not suppressing it in order to not be “too much�. I’m reminded of my late teens, when I was in a deep state of depression for awhile, faced with a Weltschmerz (German for a feeling of melancholy and world-weariness) that felt all-encompassing for a time. It was probably around that time I learned a kind of survival-numbness to be able to continue onwards, and to not feel that “too much�. I'm glad that through work with different healers and therapists, as well as with the help of lots of time in nature, I was able to let go of that numbness - but it was a process, and took time.
Grief can come up in quantum hypnosis sessions or past life regressions in different ways, and the subconscious always finds the perfect way to help the person let go of layers of it. Here are some things that I have witnessed clients go through:
The Grieving Process
Grief is uncomfortable. There’s something even more confronting about it than fear or anger or other “ugly� and “undesirable� emotions. It’s harder to imagine what it could look like, what shape it could be, how it could be expressed, how to let it go. It’s like dark matter, hard to put into definitive words that others understand. Sometimes it sits so low and deep that you don’t even know its there. How do you express grief when its about big, abstract, even collective experiences?
But in the end I am grateful for all these emotions, because they mean that I care deeply. I am grateful that others could witness me express grief and felt free to do the same and be seen, too.
Finding Your Way Through Loss
It is a relief to be able to express the “ugly� and have it turn into beauty, a shared moment that works as an antidote to the loneliness that grief can create. And to feel a gentleness that balances out that sneaky, creeping apathy that can slowly take hold of us when the world feels like too much. The aliveness of acknowledging all of the emotions is a gift, and one of the best things about being human.
But for that we often need compassionate witnesses – whether friends, family or professional facilitators. Quantum healing hypnosis sessions, or past life regressions, are an amazing tool for approaching grief in a way where the subconscious doesn't give you more than you can handle. And shows it to you in a way that lands gently and safely for you.
Support in Times of Grief
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