Perfectionism — setting excessively high standards alongside a tendency to evaluate self-worth based on achievement — is far more than conscientiousness or high standards. When it drives chronic self-criticism, procrastination, fear of failure and avoidance, it becomes a significant source of suffering. Therapy addresses the beliefs and behavioural patterns that distinguish self-defeating perfectionism from healthy striving.
See therapies that may helpHealthy striving involves high standards alongside the flexibility to tolerate imperfection and learn from mistakes. Clinical perfectionism involves standards that are both extremely high and rigidly applied, with self-worth contingent on meeting them — creating a system in which achievement brings only fleeting relief, while any shortfall produces harsh self-criticism.
Perfectionism is a transdiagnostic maintaining factor — prominent in OCD, eating disorders, depression, anxiety, procrastination and burnout. It is often invisible from the outside (where the person appears simply competent and high-achieving) while causing significant internal suffering.
Signs of problematic perfectionism include:
CBT for perfectionism is the most evidence-based approach:
If perfectionism is significantly affecting your wellbeing, relationships or functioning, a CBT therapist or CFT practitioner is the most appropriate starting point. 'Overcoming Perfectionism' by Roz Shafran is a well-regarded CBT self-help resource based on the same model used in therapy.
Showing 13 therapies linked to Perfectionism.
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| Cognitive Behavioural Therapist |
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CBT helps you identify the rigid, all-or-nothing thinking behind perfectionism and test out more flexible, realistic standards. |
| Counsellor |
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Counselling offers a space to explore the fear of failure and self-criticism that drive perfectionism, easing the pressure to be flawless. |
| ISTDP Practitioner |
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ISTDP works with the anxiety and buried emotions that fuel perfectionistic striving, helping you relate to yourself more kindly. |
| Life Coach |
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Life coaching can help you reset unrealistic standards into achievable goals and ease the self-imposed pressure of perfectionism. |
| Mindfulness Practitioner |
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Mindfulness teaches you to notice harsh self-judgement without acting on it, loosening the grip of perfectionistic thoughts. |
| Psychotherapist |
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Psychotherapy looks at the deeper roots of perfectionism, such as early experiences and self-worth tied to achievement. |
| Arts Therapist |
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Arts therapy offers a low-pressure, non-verbal outlet to explore the self-criticism of perfectionism; it works best alongside other support. |
| EMDR Practitioner |
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EMDR may help when perfectionism is linked to distressing memories of criticism or failure, though evidence here is limited and it complements wider care. |
| EFT Practitioner |
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Some people use EFT tapping to ease the anxiety and self-criticism of perfectionism; evidence is limited, so treat it as a supportive aid alongside proper care. |
| Hypnotherapist |
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Hypnotherapy is sometimes used to ease the fear of failure behind perfectionism, but evidence is limited and it should support, not replace, appropriate care. |
| NLP Practitioner |
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NLP techniques are offered to help reframe perfectionistic self-talk, though evidence is limited and it is best used alongside proper professional support. |
| Regression Therapist |
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Regression therapy explores early experiences thought to underlie perfectionism; evidence is limited, so use it as a complement to appropriate care. |
| Creativity Analysis |
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Creativity analysis is a supportive, exploratory approach to the perfectionism that can block self-expression; evidence is limited and it is not a substitute for professional care. |
No — high standards involve wanting to do well with flexibility to tolerate imperfection. Perfectionism involves self-worth contingent on flawless performance, extreme self-criticism for any shortfall, and inability to enjoy success because goal posts immediately move. High standards motivate and energise; perfectionism depletes and paralyses.
Yes — perfectionism is one of the most common drivers of procrastination. If a task has to be done perfectly, starting it risks producing imperfect work, which feels intolerable. Not starting protects against the feared failure. CBT for perfectionism addresses this through behavioural experiments testing what actually happens when things are done to 'good enough' rather than perfect standard.
There is some evidence for genetic contributions through personality dimensions such as conscientiousness and neuroticism. However, perfectionism is also strongly shaped by early experiences — particularly conditional approval, high parental standards, or environments where mistakes were punished. Both dimensions are amenable to therapeutic change.
CBT for perfectionism works by testing the beliefs that maintain it through behavioural experiments. Deliberately doing something to a 'good enough' standard and observing the actual consequences challenges catastrophic predictions. This evidence-based approach is more effective than simply telling oneself to lower standards.
A distinction is made between adaptive perfectionism (high standards with self-compassion and flexibility) and maladaptive perfectionism (self-worth contingent on performance, with harsh self-criticism for any shortfall). The latter is reliably associated with poorer wellbeing. What matters most is not the level of standards but the relationship to falling short of them.