Posted by Elizabeth Jeffries 909 Days Ago
When staying in love does come hard, and you want to find ways through it, you may begin to wonder whether couples therapy can help.
If so, how?
This blog answers some questions that people beginning couples therapy often ask, and also provides information about the potential benefits of therapy.
Couples therapy is a type of psychotherapy in which a therapist helps two people involved in any kind of relationship to gain insight into their relationship, to resolve conflict and make changes which improve the relationship.
Beginning with a period of exploration regarding the history of the relationship, and each partner’s family-of-origin and personal values, the therapy then progresses to focus on the issue of concern, and once this issue isidentified, then to work out a plan for the therapy.
During the sessions the therapist helps the couple gain insight into the relational dynamics maintaining the problem, while also helping each partner to understand their role in the creation or development of the difficulties.
Although gaining insight is important, another crucial aspect of couples therapy involves actually changing ways of interacting with each other.
Most couples can come away from their therapy having gained insight into relational patterns, increased emotional expression and developed the skills necessary to communicate and problem-solve with their partners more effectively.
Couples therapy can be helpful for any couple when they are going through periods in their relationship when being in love feels hard, or challenging, or the relationship is at risk of total breakdown.
Falling in love is easy, staying in love is the hard part (Anonymous)
Here are are several ways that couples often talk about therapy having been helpful:
The exact time when couples therapy may be most useful can vary.
Each relationship is unique and different after all.
However, typically, it will be when one or more of the following exist in your relationship:
A cycle of blame, anger, hurt, resentment and disappointment
So the big question then emerges. Do you feel that you are ready yourselves for couples therapy?