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Paul Hayward

My philosophy of counselling is quite simple: have faith in the person and have faith in the process. It is a simple philosophy, but one which I feel has served me, and more importantly, my clients, well to date. The subject of this case study, referred to as “Bear” (not his real name) was referred to me... [read more]

Francesco  Bernardi

It is surprising and saddening hearing kind-hearted and levelled clients be hard on themselves for behaviours that are not socially desirable, i.e.: having an extra drink at a party and getting a little drunk, having casual sex, having an argument with a loved one, calling in sick at work on a bad day, etc. These are... [read more]

Tess Adams

WRITING AS A THERAPEUTIC TOOL

Posted by Tess Adams 797 Days Ago


"I was angry!  So angry... I began stabbing at the cornflakes packet with my spoon when I was ten.  Then I took to writing big angry words on the cardboard - nasty words, swear words.  Then I felt better.  So I tore then up.  I found solace in writing large angry words on paper (toilet paper included).  I... [read more]

Bunty Dann

We all do it! We spend a third of our lives doing it… and yet, when a good night’s sleep has become elusive, our mental and physical health are badly affected.  Sleep is an essential, involuntary process. It is as important for our bodies as eating, drinking and breathing. It is vital for maintaining good mental... [read more]

Fran Roberts

We often develop unhelpful stories when we are young and unable to emotionally process what is happening. These stories are developed to help us cope at the time but often end up becoming thorns in our side as we grow older. We struggle to develop healthy relationships or commit to things but we don’t understand why.... [read more]

Margareta James

Doing well at school is a worry all youngsters have to contend with – but are schoolchildren in Cambridge more stressed than we thought? It could be so, after it emerged children as young as 6 are now being treated for stress by professionals, with the pressure of taking school tests cited as one of the... [read more]

Gayle Joubert

Broken Hearts Can, And Do, Mend

Posted by Gayle Joubert 1306 Days Ago


If your relationship has left you hurt, bewildered, confused, bitter, disappointed, angry, rejected, broke, broken, or any or all of those, you may be feeling as if you will never get over it. You will, with a little help or a lot of time. Feeling as if your heart is broken is one of the hardest things to cope... [read more]

Barbara Paczkowska

If you're wondering whether you suffer from depression, the following text will help you to clear your doubts and answer the question… What is depression? We all feel sad or under the weather at times, but we only talk about depression when these feelings are prolonged, or when they are so strong that they impair our normal way... [read more]

Nina Smith

Kindness

Posted by Nina Smith 1315 Days Ago


I’ve been reflecting a lot on the nature and impact of kindness this week. When someone is kind to us, we can have two reactions - we can accept it and soak in the gift, or we can feel uncomfortable - unworthy somehow. How we receive kindness can say a lot about how we were raised and... [read more]

Precious Moments And Health Ltd

Introduction Having worked within a number of local authorities in various capacities, I have identified some important issues in counselling within the care system and also the educational establishment. Many children who come into care arrive either as young babies or children or as adolescence around the ages of 12 upwards. Many would have experienced some... [read more]

Jill Wootten

Post Natal Depression: How can Counselling help?

Posted by Jill Wootten 1362 Days Ago


Have you recently had a baby? Are you struggling with feeling low and are often tearful or feel emotionally overwhelmed? You could be suffering from Post Natal Depression, something that affects one in every three new mums in the U.K. alone.  What is Post Natal Depression? Post Natal Depression is the name given to the onset of depressive... [read more]

Louise Shuttleworth

What teens might say to a parent to avoid conflict

Posted by Louise Shuttleworth 1364 Days Ago


Mum, Dad, I would like 20 mins of your active presence and that means looking at me and really attuning to what I am saying without reacting to what I say. If I am still angry and talking about it has not calmed me down, I suggest you come back in 20 mins and hopefully I... [read more]

Andy  Hunt

I just read a short article Fear of Apples by Seth Godin. He suggests that there are two reasons that people might not be taking advantage of a product or service. Whatever you sell, there are two big reasons people aren't buying it: 1. They don't know about it 2. They're afraid of it. If you can get over those two,... [read more]

Darren Magee

Developing better work/life balance

Posted by Darren Magee 1413 Days Ago


How exactly do you leave work at five and not think about it until the next morning? Is that possible when you’ve an important presentation at nine the next morning in front of the entire senior management team? What if when you’re in the middle of a grievance procedure, which always seem to take forever? Of course... [read more]

Gherardo Della Marta

Acceptance and commitment therapy

Posted by Gherardo Della Marta 1422 Days Ago


Acceptance and Commitment therapy or ACT The goal of ACT is to create a rich and meaningful life, while accepting the pain that goes with it. It is only through mindful action that we can create a meaningful life. ACT is a mindfulness-based behavioural therapy that utilises a mix of metaphor, mindfulness skills along with a wide... [read more]

Gherardo Della Marta

Empathy and counselling

Posted by Gherardo Della Marta 1422 Days Ago


What is Empathy? Empathy has been described in different ways: walking in another's shoes, entering into another person's frame of reference or having the ability to experience life as the other person does by entering the person's world of thoughts, feelings, emotions and meanings. In counselling, empathy is an expression of the regard and respect the counsellor holds... [read more]

Debbie Kelly

Work related stress is an increasingly common issue in today’s busy society. Health and Safety Executive figures for 2013/2014 indicate that ‘Stress, depression or anxiety and musculoskeletal disorders accounted for the majority of days lost due to work-related ill health.’  Many employees have work targets to meet, colleagues to compete with, promotions to attain as well as... [read more]

Owen Redahan

Are you worried you may be addicted to digital communicating? How much time do you spend looking at your mobile screen or on the computer just checking what others have posted on their wall? Texting, emails and other forms of communications have changed dramatically how we talk to others. There have been advantages. For example we are... [read more]

Anthony  Somers

All The Lonely People

Posted by Anthony  Somers 1427 Days Ago


The Lonely People   ‘All the lonely people where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong?’ The Beatles The lonely people come from another universe where ironically they are never alone. Love is everywhere, everybody loves everybody else, all decisions are made from a place of love. There is nothing but love, it's... [read more]

Anthony  Larkin

One only has to open up the paper to see the devastating consequences of war and the refugees spilling into northern Europe from war-torn countries. Some of these, if not all will be victims of trauma. Alas, you do not have to be a refugee to suffer trauma. The long-term effects of trauma. Trauma can be a devastating... [read more]

Debbie Kelly

Whilst menopause is a totally natural life transition it can be a difficult time for many women. The physical changes and symptoms can be pervasive and disruptive. So often the timing is significant as it can coincide with the children growing up and possibly flying the nest so an element of re-evaluation of life, roles and routine... [read more]

Liz Cobb

Teenagers & Divorce

Posted by Liz Cobb 1462 Days Ago


Teenagers & Divorce When we are trying to assess the affect of family break up on children and young people one of the things we must of course take into account is their ages.  A five year old may worry.....”Who will look after me?  How, where and how often will I see my Daddy?  Who will read... [read more]

Aileen George

Anger Management

Posted by Aileen George 1467 Days Ago


Anger is one of the most basic human emotions. Our beliefs about anger and the way we relate to the angry part of ourselves is shaped by how others react to our anger when we are growing up. Children often act out their feelings of anger because they don't have the language to externalise it. The... [read more]

Owen Redahan

Over the last 20 or so years therapists have been seeing more clients, especially but not exclusively men, who are worried about their pre-occupation with sex. And therapists, when they see a young man worried that he is unable to ejaculate inside his partner, begin to wonder how much internet porn they are watching. Addiction to... [read more]

Aileen George

Understanding Anxiety

Posted by Aileen George 1475 Days Ago


Anxiety is something all human beings experience. It's a useful survival strategy to help us concentrate, see things through until the end and keep ourselves and others safe. When we experience anxiety temporarily we are able to manage the intensification, peak and subsidence – like a wave (that is present with all feelings if we don't... [read more]

Aileen George

Passive Aggression - What Does This Mean?

Posted by Aileen George 1479 Days Ago


“Passive aggressive” is a term that has become more widely used, yet understanding and explaining what that means can be as frustrating as living or working with someone who is passive aggressive. The frustration often comes about because the passive aggressive person's indirect expression of hostility is not honestly owned by them. The recipient of the... [read more]

Malcolm Scott

Moving On: Transition, Change and the Hope of New Beginnings

Posted by Malcolm Scott 1494 Days Ago


“I watch the ripples change their size, but never leave the stream of warm impermanence. So the days float through my eyes, but still the days seem the same.[1]” I’ve no doubt, that when David Bowie wrote “Changes”, he was referring in part to the evolution of his own dynamic history. But like all great artists gifted... [read more]